Actions: thoughts are natural, can be positive or negative. Actions translate (and test) thoughts so they are 100% more powerful. Positive thoughts will remain in your head until you action them. Negative thoughts (Worry/ anxiety) are of no use and they consume your time and energy. Most importantly, negative thoughts kill the joy of life!

Experiences: possessions are temporary. You can lose them due to any reasons natural or manmade. When people die, they don’t take anything with them (despite their efforts). Even legacy is something you cannot control.  Experiences are deeper and more meaningful.

Kindness: this is all what is left. When you are kind to people, this is a sign of strength not weakness. When you look back on a relationship (personal or professional) kindness is the best option to treat an individual whether they have been good or bad to you.

Needs: I should distinguish needs from wants. Needs are deeper and normally more legitimate. Wants can spring from media and social pressures.  Normally people get what they want. Be careful what you wish for! If needs and wants are aligned, then all the better.  What is yours will come to you. Do not blindly follow your wants.

Equality: do not put anyone in a higher or lower importance (or position) than you. You could have been born in their shoes and vice versa. You could have been born into a different gender, race, orientation, nationality, abilities etc respect to yourself and others should stem from this sense of equality.

Time: Life is short: seize the day, the moments with your friend or loved one, the time for rest or enjoyment. Everything will come in due time! But remember you can’t get everything so focus on what you really need!

Contribution: at the end when you look back, what do you want to have achieved? Contribution to others is more noble than just seeking to achieve your needs and wants. Make sure you understand your contribution to anything personal and professional you invest time in. 

Control: you do your best but then you accept the outcomes of your actions (or lack of actions) and thoughts. It is very useful to distinguish between what you should control and when to let go. we can control our actions and decisions but not the outcomes of those. Accept and relax, no regrets! You did what you could in that situation and given what you knew then.! Make anxiety your friend. What you fight will fight you back too.

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